Another milestone this week...we've started a new nap routine, or rather, I have. It started on Wednesday so we've only tried it out for 3 days so far but, I have my fingers crossed and am hoping and praying that this will work, otherwise Jason is going to have to ship me off to the loony bin.
Here's the old routine: Jackson slept in his pack-n-play which is the only thing set up in the nursery, while I put him down (which only takes 2 seconds because he's the best sleeper in the world) I let Abygail watch one episode of Little Bear. Then it's time for her to lay down on the couch and either take a nap or quietly read books and play with other quiet toys. This has not really been working because I have to stay in there the whole time and do the same as her (read or nap). In the past month I think she's only taken a dozen naps which only gives me a dozen days of sanity. Something had to be done and done now before the twins come.
So here's the new routine and the solution: Jackson now takes a nap in his crib with is in our room, in his room there is a small fan that we run for quiet noise...in our room there is an AC which I just put on fan only and run it for quiet noise. I then put Abygail (at almost the same time) in the nursery in the pack-n-play or on the floor with pillow and blanket (whichever she wants because she can climb out of the pack-n-play anyway) and leave the room (after the snuggles and nap kisses of course).
Day 1: She cried for 45 mins, then started saying ow, ow, ow, so I feared that she had stuck her finger in the socket and electrocuted herself (there seriously is nothing else up there and they love unplugging the fan). I checked on her to find her perfectly ok except for a poopy diaper. I changed her and told her it was still nap time, put her back upstairs and left. She cried for 20 mins and then fell asleep. What did I accomplish during this time - SOOOO MUCH!!! I got the living room cleaned and vacuumed, ate my lunch in peace and rested. It was a very good sanity day.
Day 2: She cried for an hour and a half, kept Jackson awake almost the whole time and then woke him up shortly after he finally fell asleep (I forgot to turn the 'fan' on for him this day - won't forget again!). Finally after an hour and a half I was DONE listening to both of them screaming and figured it was good enough.
Day 3: Same routine, she cried for about an hour and then feel asleep. Jackson woke up shortly after and I brought him downstairs waiting for Abygail to wake up. By 4:30 I went up to wake her up only to be confronted with the WORST, NASTIEST MESS I'VE EVER SEEN OR SMELLED IN MY LIFE!!! Apparently she had gone poop again, only this time she had taken her clothes off, her diaper off and I don't know...maybe danced in it!!! She was covered in poop and so was the floor and her discarded clothes. (I didn't get a picture - I don't think one wants to see or remember that). It dry too, dried on her hands, feet, legs, floor, clothes YUCK YUCK YUCK!!! I had left her in the room just to sleep on the floor and when I opened the door she was in the pack-n-play...I think she wanted to escape the poop and find a clean/poop free place to sleep. When I cleaned it up I just threw her in the shower (that stuff was so caked and dried on I couldn't get it off any other way) and I wound up throwing the clothes away - they were stained anyway and who want's to wear poop stains even if they don't smell on the outside of your clothes!!!
No matter, I will deal with poop, I will listen to screaming and crying, I will handle the police when my neighbor finally calls them because I'm sure they can hear my child screaming and think she is being abused. I will survive this until she sleeps, there's no turning back - it will work, it must work, I will it to work!!! And in the end we will all be the happier for it and I will lavish in my 'alone' time, and enjoy the few months left before we start training two new little ones about sleeping.
It is so hard trying to start a new routine. It WILL work!! Stay strong (through all the crying) and it will work.
ReplyDeleteAbygail's story of the poop reminded me of Ian. In about 5 minutes Ian messed his diaper so bad it was all over him and his crib. It was on his face, his mouth, his pacifier. EVERYWHERE. We threw the clothes and crib sheets away and bathed him like crazy. I had to clean every slat in the crib. It was the most disgusting thing I have ever seen. And the smell of course was equally disgusting!!
It will work, don't give up. Naps are a must in my house, it is good for the kids and very good for me.
ReplyDeleteHow, how, how do I start Yahnissi on a routine. I think I've tried the crying it out thing but maybe I'm not waiting long enough so I only end up doing it for one night. Naps are no easier either. She does sleep all night once she's down but I have to rock her or pat her to sleep. Which I haven't minded doing so long as she sleeps but she's almost 20 lbs and my back can't deal with it anymore. Naps are the same thing only she sleeps for just 45 minutes rarely will I get her to sleep 1 or 1 1/2 hrs. I don't mean to take up so much of your comment space but I NEED HELP! :-) We want to expand our family soon but I cannot rock, pat walk two kids to sleep and my husbands starting school in Jan. so he can't help me much. Am I just being a wimp to not let her cry?!
ReplyDeleteI understand your need to be alone, but it is a dream most mothers do not get to enjoy after a certain age (unless you get a sitter and leave the house.)Hhowever; Quiet time is something that can be a part of your routine the is manageable and enforcable, and quite enjoyable. Most of my children were not good nappers. I could not count on naps consistantly after 21/2. As a mother you need quiet time everyday. A time to read your scriptures, meditate, do something you really enjoy, like hand work etc, even if it is just for a few minutes.Focus on the promises of the Lord and not the concerns that are looming in your future. Pray with the kids before quiet/nap time. Keep the spirit in your home.
ReplyDeleteI always told my girls that starting the day with a prayer will give you more hours in the day. You will accomplishmore than is normally possible. You are an amazing, amazing mother! And, you are the most beautiful person. I really admire you! Do not get discouraged or over whelmed. You are perfectly capable and up to the task. Enjoy your journey and the Lord will lead you along as he has promised.Wishing you the best as you establish your routines.